Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Just One Day?

Love Day. An entire day devoted to romantic love. Now the romantic in me likes the concept of celebrating love for a whole day, but the hopeless romantic in me loves the concept of celebrating all kinds of love everyday. I've never really had the pleasure of spending a Valentines Day with anyone but here are just some thoughts I have had about this day and some things on relationships.

My first thought was kind of towards the ladies. If today, your birthday, and your anniversary are the only days he does something "special" for you, then maybe it's time to reconsider your relationship. I feel like it's special occasions that make guys think these are the only days you treat her like she's the only girl in the world. 

My Pastor (Pastor Steven Furtick) preached a series at Elevation Church called Visionary Love Dream Sex. The series was about dating, relationships, sex, and marriage. One particular thing he said that hit me really hard was, and this isn't an exact quote, but it went something like, "Just because you have won her heart, does not mean you stop trying to win it over again everyday." Yeah, that's right, every single day! If you do not have the urge, the willingness, the want to pursue her every day, then why are you with her?? 

My second thought: I know for sure I want someone who is going to have me in pursuit of her for the rest of my life. I never want to stop wanting her, and I never want her to stop wanting me. This isn't a one-way thing here. Now I believe that the guy should probably do more the pursuing, but I also want to be pursued. Maybe I have an extremely fairytale view of all of this, but I am ok with that. I enjoy thinking about waking up and being excited because I get to win her heart all over again today. I am definitely not going to wait just for Valentines Day. 

Which leads me to a sub thought - If you do your best to win her over everyday, then the special occasion days better be out of this world good. I don't mean break the bank. The money you spend on her is in no way an indicator of how much you love her (and if she thinks it is, then dude you've got some thinking to do). I just feel like, today you should do something you haven't done before for her that would be sentimental to her. Now a Tuesday is a hard day to do that, but maybe this weekend. That's just me. 

Song of Songs 2:3
 As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, his fruit was sweet to my taste.

My last thought comes from the verse above. Pastor Steven talked about this verse in one of the sermons from Visionary Love Dream Sex. Here the woman is talking about the man being a shade or a protector. She delights in sitting in his shade and his fruits are sweet. I believe that we as guys have a responsibility to be a shade to our significant other. That we have to be a safe place in the world where she can go to. Not because you yourself is the safe place, but because you reflect Christ's light so much that she delights in being under your protection. The only fruits you should produce are fruits to nourish and help her grow every single day in Christ.

Again, this isn't a one-way thing. I definitely want to find comfort in my significant other. I want to grow spiritually because of her. I know who I end up with will make me the best person I could never imagine to be. One of my favorite quotes I have seen lately was from twitter and it reads, "In whatever decision you are trying to make ask yourself, 'Will this make me more able to be used by God, or less able?'". I think about this when I think about who I am meant to be with. If our relationship hinders me from being used by God, then it is not a relationship I should be invested in. If God isn't apart of it, I want nothing to do with it. 

These are just some things that have been on my heart about all of this. I am not saying these are the way you should think. Just giving you a glimpse of the unstable, unconventional, crazy mind of mine. 

1 comment:

  1. That twitter quote speaks a lot to me. Thank you for sharing it, and your thoughts/convictions.